family & community

Everyone has a family. Some of us are genetically linked to a group of people through our biological parents, thus giving rise to an arcane industry called ancestry. These are people we may or may not care about, let alone love.

We also surround ourselves with and immerse ourselves in communities of others with whom we feel some sort of affinity and identity with.

Either group of people can bring love and support to our lives; challenge us to support them; and as often as not, end up causing us grief as well as joy and happiness.

Remembering Johnny

Remembering Johnny

“Let’s go to lunch,” Tracy said, seeing how frustrated I was after discovering that I had miscalculated the distance needed to rough-in a door that I was helping her install in a newly framed wall. “Fine.  How about chile rellenos?” “I know this restaurant,” she said, “but I don’t remember the name… down on…

Life lessons from The Pit

Life lessons from The Pit

Anyone who has lived or grown up on or near a farm in the midwest, will no doubt recognize one of these steel grain storage bins. They come in various sizes and are used to store grain destined for an area storage elevator or feed for livestock. We had several of these bins at…

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KC gay rights debate–20 years ago

I found some old video recordings of the televised public hearings for Kansas City’s gay rights ordinance 20 years ago. Between the poor quality of the original VCR tapes and the transition to digital, they look even older than that. [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dTZTuoWoQE&hl=en_US&fs=1&] You gotta’ love those glasses! City council committee hearings here are televised…

Happy Birthday, Michael

Happy Birthday, Michael

Michael and I have been together nearly 30 years.  Most of those years we have had dogs.  When our last dog died two years ago, we decided we needed a break from the responsibility and expense of pet ownership.  I could tell Michael missed Lucy and Shadow and realized how much he had doted…